Somethings are meant to happen; they don't occur just out of the blue, they happen because they are meant to. But we, human beings, a race who abuse their own species for 'fun', never accept it. We always go back and think if what that lead up to that particular event had never occurred, we think that maybe then the unthinkable, the 'unspeakable' could never have happened; that we would never have suffered any loss. But it did; it did happen and we have lost it or that person to the world or to death. So then what is the meaning of thinking about how could have we possibly prevented that situation? What we can do is just simply sit and watch the show or accept it and go through with phases that life offer as a 'bonus' to us. It's our choice. It is and always has been our choice.